stening and not really interacting with the talker. Missing the underlying meaning of the message. It's easy to fall into the rehearsal trap. The listener is concentrating on what to say or do next and is failing to focus on the talkers message. A judgmental listener quickly analyzes and interprets a talker’s delivery or message, not allowing the talker to finish making a point. Often is quick to advise and criticize. Makes assumptions before fully comprehending what the talker is saying. When a control block is in place, very little listening is going on. The listener is not allowing the talker to speak at his or her own pace and is constantly interrupting with comments or questions. Preventing the talker from finishing a point when a listener blocks the communication, the talker can experience some less than positive feelings. This happens because instead of listening to the message, the listener begins to rearch for more information, advise the listener about how to handle the situation, or criticize the talker about how he or she is handling the situation. Often, if you hold off on these behaviors, you will get the information you want without asking questions. Effective listening means avoiding the listening blocks so that the talker can deliver the message in his or her own way. The Core Listening ModelThe CORE listening model identifies the four key elements of deep listening. The term CORE is derived from the Latin word COR, which means heart. Deep listening is the ability to get to the "heart" of the matter and to listen in an empathic, heart-felt manner. Chose to listen Open the communication Reflect the essence Expand the communicationChoosing to listen involves paying attention and finding an appropriate context for listening. Paying attention takes effort! Although you may appear to be listening, you can become lost in your thoughts, your feelings, the past, the future, another location (home, office, vacation) As ...
