someone else this time.”(Frost). He wants to be the man of the house and be able to make everything the way it was. He wants to be the one who helps Amy get past the pain of the child they lost. He feels that as her husband, she should share her thoughts and feelings with only him. Only he can help her through this horrible time in their life. If Amy goes to someone else, he will feel as if he is useless as a man, since he couldn’t help his wife get over her grief, or keep his child from death.In the poem we see that in times of grief, women tend to show weakness and the need for isolation. Amy seems to be wallowing in her own sorrows. Gale states,” She risks burying both her marriage and her sanity.”(Gale). Amy feels that she is the only one in pain over the loss of their child, and does not recognize that just because her husband does not openly show his emotions, that he too has been affected by their child’s death. She wants to leave and get out of the house, instead of seeking comfort from her husband. Everything in the house, including her husband, reminds her of her dead child. She sees nothing but death and has, in a sense, died herself. She always stares out the window at the child’s mound and cannot get past the fact that her husband was the one that buried their child.The husband asks Amy “What was it brought you up to think it the thing to take your mother-loss of a first child so inconsolably in the face of love?”(Frost). The husband is trying to show Amy that he is there for her. He cannot understand why his love just isn’t enough to get her through this. In Amy’s eyes, not even his love can fill the empty space in her heart that her child has taken with it to the grave. She feels that as long as she grieves for her child, that her child will always be with her, and she with it.Gale says, “He wants to be allowed into her grief.”(Gale). ...
