7;s partner or what it was like to be a lover of another man. The partner emphasized it was just like loving a wife. He also experienced what it was like for a man to hold another man and his arms. It is ironic that he would experience homophobic reactions from other people, which angered him, even though he was having homophobic reactions also. The border guard would not let him bring illegal drugs across the Mexican border that might have let his brother live longer. Also, his homophobic wife did not even want to know all the details about his brother’s affairs. The homophobic funeral director would not embalm the body, fearing contamination. The brother took care of all the arrangements with his brother’s partner next to his side. He tried to remain strong for his brother, his brother’s partner and his own respect. Since he was able to remain strong and continued to interact with the brother’s partner, he was able to return to his family more compassionate and a little less homophobic. He felt more comfortable at home with his family where he was involved in a more familiar lifestyle. Many heterosexuals would have dealt with this situation in the very same way. Homophobic reactions will also appear in Neil Miller’s essay “In Search of Gay America: Ogilvie, Minnesota”. Neil Miller, gay journalist and author, has traveled around the world experiencing the lifestyles of other gays and lesbians. He also wrote “Gay and Lesbian Life from Buenos Aires to Bangkok”. While traveling around the world he meet up with two gay dairy cattle farmers, Al and John, in Ogilvie, Minnesota. Al is the practical one who is living out his dream. John is the more sensible one and has a better financial grasp on the business of farming. John was the one who dealt with the veterinarian, the bank, and salesmen. John had a life off of the farm. He is a reporter-editor for “The Farmer”, a monthly m...
