the edge. Perhaps you can a time or two -- but eventually you will find yourself at the bottom of the cliff -- or in this case -- going all the way. What you do on your dates will determine whether you will be successful in fulfilling your goals of remaining sex free. Think about and discuss the following check list: Are your dates sensational or sensual? Are you building wonderful memories, or will you have painful memories filled with regrets? Have you set definite boundaries on how far is too far? When you find yourself tempted are you in control enough to immediately get out of the situation, or do you convince yourself it won't hurt to wait a little longer. Do you date ONLY people with the same commitment to sexual purity? Do your friends and those you date know about your stand on abstinence? Are you proud of your stand on abstinence? Do you have an accountability partner? -- Someone besides the person you date! No one ever said sexual abstinence until marriage is easy. In fact, it may be one of the toughest choices you make in your life. To succeed it will require a great deal of self-control, self-respect and self-discipline. Most people are capable of controlling themselves, but in our society, the ability to control self is not looked upon with the recognition it deserves. The question is, are you going to make the right choice? Is the person you are dating ready to make the right choice? It doesn't matter how good you are; how great an athlete or student you might be -- you are going to find yourself tempted to get involved in a physical relationship. The feeling is normal and natural, after all, we are all sexual creatures, living in a sexual society. YOU must determine if you are going to control this powerful sex drive. The best way to support yourself in your decision is to be honest with your partner and talk about your feelings. If you can explain that you can be in love and not have sex this may work as a strategy f...
