hey affect the decisions of our daily lives. The first barrier I will address and feel is the first and foremost important barrier of all is Physical Unattractiveness. This is the number one external barrier that the majority of all people put on their list when looking for a mate. With all of the media and Hollywood showing us what the perfect body is, what beauty is suppose to look like, and that beauty is the number one thing in the world. People stress that physical attractiveness is the most important thing in a relationship. Do not get me wrong, initial physical attractiveness is what basically motivates people to initiate a "first move" because of the attraction they feel toward this person. If we do not find this person attractive, then it is more likely that a platonic friendship would start between these two individuals. But what if the situation was reversed, and it was we who was being perceived as unattractive. This would certainly lower our self-esteem and cause us to beafraid to initiate or approach individuals we find attractive. This notion does not matter if you are heterosexual or homosexual, it applies to allThe second most important barrier is Fear of Rejection. People who are subject to this barrier, which is the majority of us, are afraid to build up the confidence and the nerve to approach an individual, and then have it "shot down". This is an unpleasant feeling which "can lower self-esteem and lead to embarrassment in front of others" according to Kiesler & Baral, Krebs & Adinolfi, and Reis (pg 33). Therefore, due to these factors, the formation of sexual relationships according to Huston, Shanteau, and Nagy (pg 33), "People are not likely to choose as potential dates those who they think are unlikely to accept their offer". This issue holds true and applies to people all walks of life. Pertaining to my own personal experience, I have always been afraid of rejection, and it has always seemed to hold...
