ned to boast about everything that they have done with the beloved- making it public knowledge (231e). The lover, in the excitement of being with the beloved and out of passion, tends to tell his friends and neighbors about the things that he has done with the beloved such as sexual acts, arguments, and other things shared between the two of them. By this, everyone will know about the relationship between the lover and beloved and become inclined to know more or give advice and maybe even pass harsh judgment on the beloved from the information revealed about him. On the contrary the non-lover has better judgment and will choose to do what is best, which will be to disclose any information about his relationship with the beloved from anyone else. The non-lover will keep anything and everything that goes on between the two of them because he is not driven by fiery passion. In this manner, the beloved does not have to worry about rumors about him being spread around, for the less said, the less people will know. In this way, the non-lover avoids altercation with the beloved and avoids arguments.In dealing with arguments, the fights of lovers are the most intense (232b). When loving a lover, the lover, driven by passion and full of emotion, becomes confrontational about unnecessary things in a frequent manner. In that loving the lover, the beloved feels attached to the lover and feels that he maybe obligated to answer certain questions and live up to certain criteria and when he fails to do this, the lover is then upset and begins to question the beloved at which point a quarrel begins....
