dto take things too literally and anything else we take as an attack against us. Women tend tosay sentences which have deeper meanings. Some of the phrases men easily misinterpretedare: “We never go out.”, “You don’t love me anymore.”, or “The house is always a mess.”. And for these phrases we have some dumb response like, “ We just went out last week.”. Intelling people that both sexes speak two different languages I can see how Gray is helpingcouples out. Gray is in fact in encouraging people to be more sensitive to their mates and tobe very communicative. Also to try to be more understanding of their partners when there issomething troubling him/her. I say Gray gets one point for bringing up such a good point. Onto another point I award to John Gray. John distinguishes Martians and Venusianshave very different cultures. There are things in which guys do that the does not interest thefemale and vise versa. I agree with John on the point that men usually like to solve theirown problems. It makes a male feel needed and useful. Women on the other hand like totalk out their problems. They don’t actually need people to help solve their problems; butpeople to hear them out. In one of the sections John said that guys are generally “Mr.Fix-its”. With this pointed out to me by John Gray I can now see why fights break out. When a women has a problem she would probably go to her mate to hear her out. Being the“Mr. Fix-its” we are we try to solve her problem right away by disrupting her with advice. So in time the natural phrase from the Venusian is, “You don’t listen to me.” Of course themale just thought that he was paying attention and helping her out. But with this line theMartian is probably on the defensive end now because the Venusian now made an attack onhim. And a big mess could get started. Understand this con...
