s himself with the beloved out of pure free will, without regard to any feeling of pleasure or passion. So that there is no passion present to die out and thereby the non-lover will never desert the lover. Also, the lover will very likely blame the beloved for distracting him from personal, business, or academic affairs, so that the lover appears to be preoccupied with the beloved and ignores his prior obligations to school, such as homework, papers, and studying, career plans, home life, and friends (231b). The lover becomes so entangled in doing stuff for the beloved, that the beloved comes first, above all and everything, by his choice, but at the fault of the beloved. When this happens, the lover becomes immoderate and has no balance within his life. While the non-lover will always put business first, so that the beloved is second to all things and therefore cannot be blamed for a malfunction in the lover’s prior obligations. During the relationship between the lover and the beloved, the lover will be kind to the beloved, but when it ends, the lover will love someone else, disregarding the previous relationship, thus hurting the past beloved (231c). So that after having some extended relationship with the lover, and for example, the lover’s passion withers away and the beloved and the lover are no longer together, although the beloved may still have feelings of affection for the lover, but his feelings will be disregarded, especially when he sees the lover with another beloved. It is obvious that the lover will move on to another once his passion for the beloved is over and this will deeply wound the beloved. Yet, it is implied that there will be no injury to the beloved on the part of the non-lover because the non-lover has always and will always associate with the beloved as well as others, so that it is acceptable to the beloved when the non-lover associates himself with someone else. The lover is also incli...
