disturbed me, wasthe fact that Gary and his friend Scott at a young age could make thedistinction among their different ethnic groups. By this I mean that there wasan acknowledgment that both Gary and his friend Scott came from differentethnicity groups and should therefore keep within their groups when consideringmarrying. Couples often marry those of the same ethnic identity for a sense offamiliarity. One may also want to spend their life with an individual who sharesthe same cultural ideology. This shared ideology could be political, religious,economic etc. A shared or common ideology reduces conflict and creates a senseof unity. Marriage after all is supposedly the act of two people uniting for therest of their lives. I would not be a bit surprised if Scott at the same timewas being reinforced by family members or peers that he too should stay amonghis own people. “No offense, Scott,” I said with an orange slice in my mouth, “but Iwould never marry an Okie” We walked in step almost touching, with a sled ofshadows behind us. “No offense, Gary,” Scott said , “but I would never marry aMexican.” (page 696) I often have similar conversations with my good friend and housemateAdrian, in which I often find myself believing that I should marry a goodMexicana. I haven't been reinforced by family to this ideology. I think it isdue more towards the frustration I have with our social structure. I have thesense that I could relate better to someone of common descent. Someone who hasendured the same pain and or confusion of ones own distinctiveness, social class,ethnicity, etc.. I can honestly see myself living the rest of my life with aperson who is “Other” than white. However wrong or contradictory it may sound,my feelings are such. I felt that Gary and Scott shouldn't have felt the waythey did about marrying their own, yet I shared the same feelings. I believe inth...
