whether the abuser will kill her once she leaves, and no one else can make that decision for her.The dynamics of Domestic violence for the perpetrator identifies men or women who batter as being:v Abused as children by fathers who neglected or rejected them, and these batterers discipline their children with violence, thus perpetuating the cycle of abuse. v Believe in traditional sex roles (i.e, macho men, subservient women). Abusive men talk about their "rights" as husbands and their role as "head" of the family. v Controlling every move his wife or partner makes, where she goes, the amount of money she can have, and what she can buy. He monitors her calls, mileage, clothing and make-up. Batters fear of not being in control stems from the fear of death or injury he experienced as a child in a violent home.v Deny, minimize, and blame his intimate partner. He denies he hurt her by saying "She fell", he blames his intimate partner by saying "I dont get this way with anyone else, its your fault", they minimize the incident to "Its just a bump" or "I didnt know what I was doing, I was out of control." Domestic Violence 6 v Master manipulators, they know how to convince his partner to feel sorry for him. He tells her what she wants to hear. The batters worst fear is that she will leave and is charming enough so she wont leave.v History of violence may hear a batterers friend comment on how "moody he is. A bad track record of how he mistreats women.v Extremely passive and very charming one minute and explode in anger the next. The violence can be triggered if he feels threatened, shamed, powerless, or humiliated. Drugs and alcohol are often used as an excuse for "losing control."v Most batterers know if he intimates his partner enough, and she doesnt tell anyone, he knows he can get away with abusing her. Especially if she is smaller, weaker, someone who is economically dependent on him, and cares about him, he can bully her into not goi...
