ove your self-concept. Do not say “can’t”; instead, say, “can”. Finally, have the skill to change –seek advice from books, Internet, or observe others to adapt their behavior to fit your own personal style. In regards to integrating this concept into my life, I focused on improving my self-expression towards others by increasing my competence, disregarding irrational thoughts, increasing self-awareness, and at the same time, gain a higher level of self-esteem. I have the will, but I am working on the skill to change. The major influence is competency and my subjects are everyone that I interact with –all will help me determine my progress. The first thing I found that I should improve on was feeling comfortable around those who I perceive as superior. I have this fear, which leads to disorganized thoughts, of communicating with someone of a higher rank than I. You see…I consider (only) Caucasians to be superior –adults, because of their logic and high-level use of English. To me, having the ability to speak “good or proper” English is a big advantage, and it is just one skill that I still need improvement on. I find myself lost of words when spoken to, and most of the time I end up stuttering them and leads to “not making sense”. Don’t get me wrong, I can write, but it is difficulty for me when it comes to a face-to-face conversation. In taking this class of Interpersonal Communication, I have discovered how to overcome this flaw of mine. First, I create a feeling of competence and decreased my level of nervousness. Secondly, I organize my thoughts and words as I listen. Then, I express those ideas slowly and articulately. That way, my ideas can come sensibly. Another solution is to think highly of myself, instead of thinking inferior. Secondly, I realized that I am too hard on my self. I think too irrationally of my self and of othe...
