des not to change, he will search for evidence to support the decisionii.Clients tend not to test their decisions, but build them upV. ChangeA.Shadow side: helpers as agents1.Some helpers respond to passivity with passivity2.The helper must be a doer before he can inspire actionB.Shadow side: reluctance to start1.Passivity may take the form of doing nothing, acting aimlessly, and shutting down2.Learned helplessness is giving up before you start because of pre-confirmed self stereotypes3.Disabling self-talk takes the form of negative inner conversations4.Vicious circles of guilt and depression because of failed attempts5.Disorganization feeds the tendency to not succeed.C.Shadow side: entropy1.Entropy is the tendency to fall apart2.Clients tend to not change, or stop what they are doing VI. Commitments shadow side: Goal settingA.Helpers and clients both tend to not want to set goals.B.Goals mean intended action, and passivity on the part of the client breeds passivity on the part of the helperC.Rationality does not match most clients status quoVII. Best fits shadow side: selecting strategiesA.Wishful thinking1.Clients do not consider risks when making goals2.Clients operate blindlyB.Playing it safe1.Clients avoid risks and miss the mark2.Clients tend not to constantly assess possible tangentsC.Avoiding the worst outcome1.Clients acknowledge possible risks, but then stop in their tracks when they see the fruition of the risk2.Clients assess risks, but do not take steps to deal with themD.Clients forget to strike a balance between risks and possibilities for success ...
