tionships. Consequently, if we are not nourishing those relationships, we are contributing to their demise. What a person can learn about another by simply being attentive is astounding. We learn about their habits, likes, dislikes, dreams, worries, and innermost thoughts. How can any of us say that we are a good friend, boyfriend, or husband if we do not practice mindfulness in our relationships with others?The sixth miracle of mindfulness, understanding, is another aspect that is directly beneficial in everyday life. As Hanh points out, When we understand something, we often say I see (Hanh, Pg. 66). Clearly meaning in such a case that we have understood something that we did not understand before. When we devote due attention to something, it is easier to understand it. In turn, when we understand something, we then have some control over it, or at least our relationship with it. In the context of our relationships with others, understanding is essential for developing care or love for others. It is clear how understanding a loved one is beneficial for the relationship, but even in relation to a disliked person, as with a person we care for, an understanding of their thoughts and motivation and problems closes the door for dislike and opens the door to love and care. Although not defined as a miracle of mindfulness, one of the greatest attributes to a person that lives his life in mindfulness is his ability to control emotions. This is because of his awareness of his emotions as a result of meditation on these emotions. In effect, because we know we are angry or jealous, we now have the ability to control these emotions in a way that they do not dictate our actions. Moreover, because we know and are aware of the object of our emotions, we no longer have the desire to harm another person. If anything, we feel empathy for them and our anger or jealousy is changed to love and the desire to help them overcome their sufferin...
