y need to make a lot of money to be a good father, yet this is not true. The thing fathers need to distribute most is love. In his book Tender Warrior, Stu Weber comments that men lose the focus of being a father and focus on making money. “To many guys squander their vision-and then wonder why they lose their families. Weber, p25" To make the money men are not at home they are at the office working 16 hour days going many days without seeing their children. Their focus is in the wrong place. “We focus myopically on houses and cars and stock portfolios and bank accounts and piling up stuff. Weber, p24" Instead fathers having there focus on making sure there children get to heaven and follow God they have their focus on earthly possessions. The fathers’ focus needs to be at home. A question every father needs to ask himself is this: “how can I manage my career goals so that I am available to my children? Weber, p29" High school is one of the most important times for any child and all fathers need to know that. Fathers need to know that their kids love it when their dad is able to watch them play or is at home in the evening os they can talk to him if they need to. Some fathers have this thought that if they are away making that their kids will love them for the things they have and will be happy that they have all of these worldly possessions. This is not true, most kids that are given a lot of things are found to be always wanting more. They are never satisfied with what they have. The thing they need the most is to know that their father cares about them and that he loves them and that is what they are not getting. Another pattern that has been seen is that if a child has a hard time connecting with his earthly father then the child will also have a hard time connecting with their heavenly father, God. This relationship is more important than any other relationship on earth but to often children a...
