f fighting rarely, if at all leads to the resolution of the situation at hand or those brought up which occurred prior to this one.One other fighting tactic is known as the mixed, or double messages. A simultaneous message that contradict each other. It may be verbal or one verbal and one nonverbal. For example, a woman tells a man, or vise versa, that he or she loves him or her while picking an invisible speck on there sweater showing there indifference to the subject. This mixed message or double message along with many others are done sometimes without the assailant being aware of there actions. Sarcasm is also another form of these messages and is readily used in such. (Marriages and Families, Mary Ann Lamanna Agnes Riedman,6th ed. p 254) All of these tactics create distance between the couple and cause unnecessary pain and anguish to the relationship. My experience with these tactics are vast. Ive been the victim as well as the perpetrator in most of these fighting tactics. From somewhat a measure of experience I can tell you that distance between the couple is the least of your troubles when you come home after alienating your wife or girlfriend....
