be nothing other than the deep muck and mire of Self." She continues, "The only escape from the swamp of Self is the instinctual and lifelong engagement in the fate of others." Decter discusses how being in a family may not make you happy, but it makes you human. She goes on: "Together, marriage and parenthood are the rock on which human existence stands....[and] No matter how ardently a young man and woman believe they wish to spend their lives with one another, and no matter how enthusiastically they greet the knowledge that they are to have a baby, they do not undertake either of these things in full knowledge of the commitment they are undertaking......they do not know that they are embarked upon a long, long, and sometimes arduous and even unpleasant journey." (Decter 1-19) Marriage, family, and divorce, are three controversial topics that each person must deal with in their lifetime. The great thing about them is that we are each allowed to have our own opinions about them. Maybe you haven't picked sides, and maybe you haven't heard enough to make a stand, but hopefully this article has got you thinking. I myself have not yet chosen a position on the topic. No-fault divorce has such a complicated base. Each marital problem causes rise to newfound solutions concerning divorce. Every person comes up with their own opinions. Each state has its laws, its bills, and its proposals to solve the problems concerning marriage and divorce. The nation finds such problems floating above its head, waiting for someone, or something, to take hold and decrease its power to control the people within it. Nevertheless, Dector reminds us not to get frustrated about such topics when she says, "All this should be a very simple matter; God knows, it's been going on long enough. So why have we fallen into such a state of confusion?"...
