she could have been around more. I missed her.Q: After your parents had the divorce, did you feel any devastating sadness, and where there any particular issues you struggled with because of the separated parent was not around everyday? Oldest Brother: I was sad, but I would not describe it as “devastating”. One of the issues I think was hard for me to deal with was having the responsibility of looking out for my two younger brothers, who did nothing but fight with each other, and me.Middle Brother: I don't remember anything specific.Q: Did discipline change during the time between the divorce and the remarriage?Oldest Brother: Yes. I don’t recall ever getting a real whipping after mom left. I guess dad felt bad about having to put so much responsibility on me and was more lenient with me.Middle Brother: I don’t remember any difference from before. I do remember dad being sort of strict, but I think he needed to be raising three boys on his own.Q: Can you name some positive and negative aspects in you life that you think the divorce is a direct result? Positive Aspect: Oldest Brother: A positive aspect would be that now, as an adult living within a divorced family, I can identify with my step-children, and know how they must feel having a “stepfather” married to their mom instead of their “real father."Middle Brother: I think the way dad raised us and watching mom live her life made me a more responsible person.Negative Aspect: Oldest Brother: Having to deal with my mother’s guilt over the divorce, and having to see the two people I love most separately.Middle Brother: The only thing I can think of is, while I was growing up, I did not feel like other kids I grew up with that had married parents.Q: Do you feel as if you really know mother as much as you think you should know about her? Who do you feel like you know more about, your mother or father? Oldest Brother: Actually, I know m...
