eir parents sexual orientation may be transcended to them, and the children of homosexual parents are then faced with the potential fear of becoming labeled as a homosexual themselves if secrecy is tarnished. Consequently, “guilt by association” presents a danger to their reputation. This not only presents a danger to the reputation of the child, but also tarnishes the idea of the parent as a role model; thus children begin to see the homosexual identity as a negative aspect. This can possibly have adverse affects on the parent-child relationship. Homosexual parents may avoid expression of their sexual orientation because of societal attitudes and in some cases, encourage their children to hide their lovers’ true identity (Bozett 1987).The assumption that children of homosexual parent(s) are embarrassed is not always true. Children who see their homosexual parent(s) lifestyles, beliefs, and value systems as abnormal from that of contemporary societal norms, tend to view alternative lifestyles with more compassion and understanding. Children who identify with their parent(s) homosexual identity may link their values and belief system as varying from that of the dominant society, as a result the children may be more accepting of homosexuality. Identity maintenance plays a major role among children of homosexuals because of societies’ viewpoints. Reaction formation is a common defense mechanism that children use to dissociate themselves from their parents’ sexuality. However, defense mechanisms are contingent upon the child’s security about their own sexuality. Boundary control is one of the main control strategies that children use to avoid threatening situations. Children of homosexual families often attempt to control their parent’s expression of their own sexuality in order to salvage their reputation. Children may engage in boundary control by refusing to be seen in public with their h...
