ot missionary position intercourse or having an orgasm. Sex can be holding your partner while they or you touch them, massage, kissing, and a plethora of other things. The author makes the point that sometimes holding hands can be much more meaningful than having sex. These aspects make “The Guide to Getting it On!” a very unique sex book.This book has taught me several things and opened my eyes to other aspects of sexuality that I didn’t even know existed. It has literally changed some of my behaviors and beliefs about sex. Before I had more of a masculine like view on sexuality. Things like men have to be the initiators of sex. Also I had a very limited definition of sex “push, push, squirt.” I learned that there is nothing wrong with not having an orgasm during sex, or that sex doesn’t always include vaginal intercourse. In fact alternatives to intercourse such as masturbating in each other’s presence and genital massage show deep feelings of caring, trust and openness with your partner, furthering the intensity of your relationship. I have also learned to communicate more openly with my partner about sex and what feels better than other things. Besides helping my love life become more interesting, found out a lot things about myself and the opposite sex in the process. Chapter 22, “Basic Brain Weirdness & The Mind-Body Interface” talks about shyness, one-night stands, forgiving yourself, stupid mistakes, among others. These chapters showed me how to address some of the things that had happened to me in the past. I felt especially connected with the section about being in love but out of sync. This is how someone can have very strong feelings for another, but can’t make the relationship work. This happens when one person is more settled and the other needs to experience the world. I am currently dealing with a situation like this and am comforted that others...
