moving ahead at work. It made me very frustrated. I needed to be more assertive and discuss with my husband how I was feeling and possibly make ends meet without working. Secondly, I feel my husband could have been more supportive. His focus was his job. He relied on me to take care of the home and kids plus bring in a few bucks without complaint. I did do that for a long time. I am a very proud person and did not like to fail or admit I may be failing. My discontent to me was a failure. Plus, just as I was given an opportunity to move forward at a job, we were being transferred. I feel he should have been a little less controlling and more supportive of my goals.I am all for the man in the family being the bread winner and chief financial support for the family. I never felt competition to be better than my husband. I just found it exceedingly difficult to not be able to excel at anything whether career or family. My parents both worked. However, unlike my husband and I, they complemented each other very well. First, they were in the same field and worked together for success in their careers. They went back for graduate studies together and one never transferred unless the other had a comparable job. I remember my dad tending to my brother and me as much as my mom when we were sick. Everything seemed to be shared. That is how I thought my marriage should be and where my frustrations stemmed.Child Raising Issues. It is the unusual woman who successfully applies her skills and talents at home and in the working world. In too many cases, the home and children appear to be neglected. Physical neglect is obvious, but emotional neglect is not too clearly defined. In the book Sex, Career, & Family by Michael Fogarty, Rhona Rapaport an Robert Rapaport, many women who dislike children and housework but through choice or circumstances stay home inflict deep emotional damage on their children. On the other hand, mothers ...
