ght to recite the Analects. By the time they were ten they knew how to recite other important books. At ten, boys went away for school and the girls stayed home.Coming if AgeManhood and Womanhood were occasions that were celebrated through special ceremonies. The one for boys was when he was between 15 to 20. For girls it was somewhat the same when they became engaged, usually between 14 to 20.MarriageThe parents of the people who were getting married arranged marriages. They consulted their ancestor first for permission. In the wedding day the groom picked up the bride on horseback bringing the traditional present of goose. The traditional bridal color was red. They then went back to groom's house. They were honored with a feast. No priest officially pronounced them wed. By exchanging cups of wine they made themselves a married couple. The day after that, the groom visits the bride's family and they entertain him.Filial PietyA family unit remained together for life. As long as the bride's parents lived she had to serve them with humility and respect. This was the same for the groom. Even as adults they had to say when they were leaving the house. If children invited friends to the house, they could not hang out in the main room because it was only to be used by the parents. "In his service to his parents, a son should like what his parents like and respect whomever his parents respect. This holds for even dogs and horses, so of course even more for people." Said Zhu Xi.Children, back then, were not always kind and they did not behave well. Zhu Xi said to the parents that experienced this that ", Should their son or daughter-in-law not be respectful, the parents should not try to take an immediate dislike. Instead they should teach him or her. I he or she remains intractable, they should try rebukes. If there is still no improvement, they should try a lashing. If after many lashings, he or she still cannot behave properly, then they sh...
