teries. It’s certainly great and wonderful, but as I have already mentioned, it’s not a mystery. I have found the feeling of love to be quite predictable. And it’s the predictability that makes my job possible.” One of the main focuses of Fall In Love Stay In Love is dealing with what Harley calls love bank deposits. This could be one of the most influential insights of the book. This section deals with how to care for each other. The book talks about two different types of love, romantic love and caring love. For the author, the only way to reach romantic love is to first have a deep caring love. In order to reach the full capacity of this caring love, he gives a step-by-step lesson on how to deposit positive love units into the spouses love bank. There was a fascinating concept that Harley brought up in chapters five and six, concerning both his and her most important emotional needs. Harley describes what an emotional need is by saying, “An emotional need is a craving that, when satisfied, makes us feel happy and fulfilled and, when unsatisfied, makes us feel unhappy and frustrated.” There were five emotional needs listed for each sex. For men the needs were: sexual fulfillment, recreational companionship, physical attractiveness, admiration, and domestic support. For women the needs were: affection, conversation, honesty and openness, financial support, and family commitment. Of course, some men may have needs that are listed under the women’s emotional needs chapter and some women may have needs that are listed under the men’s emotional needs chapter. He associated certain emotional needs with men and certain ones with women, because he created an emotional needs questionnaire in the back of the book that allows couples to learn more about themselves and each other.. After reading this section of the book I decided to fill out the questionnaire located in appendix B...
