lationships; therefore, a family has its differentrealities of what a family is suppose to be like. They simply tell why and conclude that weare influenced to divorce by the environment of what our family and friends do. Lastly, the communitarist believes that the family is in trouble. They say that we are ina state of decline and that something must be done. In the case of divorce, a communitaristwould argue that we must go back to the small community where the church was the centerfocus. They believe in the traditional values and in the group oriented form. They wouldencourage couples to surround themselves with family support and church involvement.I have come to understand all angles of divorce, but when your get parent divorcedwhen you were four, understanding will not do the trick. Fourteen years of my life I havewondered what it would be like to have my father around. It really didnt bother me when Iwas a kid, but when I got to the age where all my friends talked about their daddies, Iwould cry silent cries because mine wasnt around. I never knew how much fun it would beto have a daddy there to do things with the family; I felt left out. I didnt really feelanything towards my father. He came and visited us once in a while, sometimes monthslater. I always wondered what had wrong and whether it could have been my fault. Mymother always told me that my father loved me very much. I hardly knew how he wasreally like and I dont think he really knew what I was like. I felt weird calling him dad. Tome, a dad was someone who was always there for his children, a person to look for whenmom wasnt there, someone who gave you money to go on school trip, the backbone of thefamily, the strong person who would take care of any matters. When I think of a daddy Ithink of my mother, she took care of all that stuff on her own until I was old enough to assisther. As my sisters and I got older, we went through a stage where money wa...
