ncisco (Queen p67).S&M paraphernalia is often used in many of these rituals. Items like handcuffs, leather masks, leather whips, and leashes are commonly used during S&M play. Various types of stimulation may be used to inflict pain upon the consenting partner. Within the S&M community, they have recently been forced to grapple with questions concerning the safety, and physical and mental health of the submissive participant. The issue of consent is also a primary concern. To help keep S&M practices safe, the community has developed a list of strategies for building awareness of consent during play. One strategy to help keep play safe, is for future partners to meet beforehand to discuss their likes and dislikes, and desires and limits. They discuss the events very thoroughly before engaging in any type of play. Another popular strategy that is used to help keep people safe is the development of “safe words.” This allows play of any kind to be stopped when one of the partners uses the safe word, which would not ordinarily be part of in-scene communication. One of the more commonly used safe words is the word “red” (Queen p68).Within the S&M society, there are a few terms related to what people are more interested in. There is sadomasochism, bondage discipline, and dominance and submission. Dominance and submission is a broad term that usually includes many features of the other two and other features, such as fetishism and transvestitism. It may include other paraphilias such as fetishism and transvestitism because it includes the act of role play and role reversal with the exchange of power. Bondage and discipline is the use, in sexual behavior, of physically restraining someone with materials, devices, or the use of psychologically restraining commands. These commands may enforce discipline without inducing physical pain. But many times, bondage and discipline does include physical punishment. ...
