ovie such as the accepted definitions for *censored* and virginity. This ties into the lacking of a pluralistic ethic and the concept of a benign sexual variation. Both these theories surround upon the idea that there is only one context to have sex and that we should follow this narrow intolerance of variation. Banky is unable to undaunted the alternate meaning of *censored* when designated toward two women. This is fitting to his ignorant character that he is unable to see past the stereotypical view of sex. Holden also is puzzled by the unaccepted definition of loss of virginity not including intercourse.In addition, the movie shows the acceptance of some sex while other kinds of sex are less accepted. This hierarchical evaluation of sex acts (Rubin) is the cause of Alyssas problem with Holden. Her being a lesbian is acceptable but the thought of her with two guys is unbearable. Lordes ideas are also touched upon where sex is better when it is with someone you love. Holden believes his solution is accepted because he loves the two people involved. Silent Bob also says that Amy was not looking for an experience but for love with someone special. There were some points that made me truly think about myself and the unquestioned path I have taken. Alyssa does not limit herself to men or women in order to find her soul mate. I think this is important because you love someone because of who they are, not sex, color, or looks. If you limit yourself by these things you lose out. It is important to expand your horizons and leave other opportunities open to mind. I also liked Alyssas idea of needing a map to find who we are in the world. We all need to explore and discover what we truly want from life. Holdens last comment is that because of his experience with Alyssa he finally had something personal to say. He grew as a person because of his new experiences with her and actually gained an experience he did not know he want...
