Sex often is confused for love in our society, which is why so many young girls end up pregnant and unmarried. However, by asking this question we must agree that we are alone in the universe and that there is only so much potential or possibility to "know" or "bond" or "connect" with others as a result. One of these ways is to nurture other people. Yet, nurturing is not romantic love. One of these ways is to share our feelings, thoughts, and deepest desire with another. Yet, this is not romantic love. Another way of bonding with another is sharing sex, but, this is not romantic love either. Thus, we must ask this question because its answer must necessarily define the individual, not the couple making love. As Olds writes, "They do not mistake the lover for their own pleasure, they are like great runners: they know they are alone with the road surface, the cold, the wind, the fit of their shoes, their over-all cardiovascular health-just factors, like the partner in the bed, and not the truth, which is the single body alone in the universe against its own best time." In other words, when we make love we are not ameliorating this condition of aloneness in the world, we are, instead, pleasuring ourselves and another. However, this is not romantic love and does nothing to lessen the condition of aloneness at its foundation. So, we must ask the question how do we make love without love because we need to understand the difference between myth and truth. The truth is that we are all animals alone in the universe and believing in myths will not change this condition, no matter how much temporary comfort or succor it yields. The myth is that making love is somehow connect to romantic love and, except for the perceptions of those who believe in myth, this, in reality is not truth.