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"The Crucible" A Play by Arthur Miller |
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One of the individuals may die unexpectedly. One of them may fall in love with another individual. One of them may change and develop while the other does not, thus forcing them to separate because they are different than when they first made their pact based on romantic love. Therefore, we are all still alone even if we could take comfort from such empty promises or pacts. Thus, since sex is often linked with romantic love, and has been historically, how do we make love without love? The question has to be asked, because in order to make love without love a new definition of the relationship two people can attain must be redefined. We must ask the question because so many individuals in society are obviously able to make love without being in love. How does a person make love to another person without love? We must ask this question because for too long society has defined sex and love on equal footing, as if there is no such thi |
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g as great sex if love is not involved. Sex often is confused for love in our society, which is why so many young girls end up pregnant and unmarried. However, by asking this question we must agree that we are alone in the universe and that there is only so much potential or possibility to “know” or “bond” or “connect” with others as a result. One of these ways is to nurture other people. Yet, nurturing is not romantic love. One of these ways is to share our feelings, thoughts, and deepest desire with another. Yet, this is not romantic love. Another way of bonding with another is sharing sex, but, this is not romantic love either. Thus, we must ask this question because its answer must necessarily define the individual, not the couple making love. As Olds writes, “They do not mistake the lover for their own pleasure, they are like great runners: they know they are alone with the road surface, the cold, the wind, the fit of their shoes, their over-all cardiovascular health-just factors, like the partner in |
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