spend his time and money dating multiple partners. I argued that God helps those who help themselves! There is no scientific evidence that there is one and only one best person in the world for any individual to marry. If this myth were true, why would people remarry after the death of a beloved spouse?The reality: There are several individuals to whom you could be happily married. The fact that there is no “one and only” in no way militates against using good judgment when selecting a spouse. Rather, it means that if one person does not measure up assuming your standards are realistic in terms of your own assets-there are other persons who will.THE PERFECT PARTNER: The myth: Until a person finds the perfect person to marry, he or she should not be satisfied. This is an unrealistic expectation. Such a desire for perfection reduces your ability to find solutions, and can lead to the opposite of your desired results. We live in a world of probabilities. The desire for absolute truth and security leads to exaggerated expectations that cannot be fulfilled and consequently produces indecisiveness and anxiety in the mate selection process. If you believe there is a perfect partner for you somewhere out there, you will be likely to engage in short-term “rating relationships” in order to more quickly identify if a person is Mr. or Miss Perfect. After all, who wants to waste their time dating someone with whom there is no future? Instead of getting to know your dates and relating to them, you will instead evaluate and rate them-prematurely. You will then develop a pattern of multiple short-term relationships, which lead to frustration, disappointment, and disillusionment for both you and your dating partners. The pointlessness of this belief is further amplified by the fact that people change over time. The person who appeared perfect at the beginning of the relationship will inevitably appear ...
