tter, and improvement can never do any harm. A collaboration of the two would be ideal.StressCoping with stress is a big difference between men and women. Men become withdrawn as where women become emotionally overwhelmed. When a man becomes stressed he will withdraw into a cave and he will begin to focus on a solution and lose awareness of all that is around him. He becomes distant and preoccupied. If he can not find a solution, the problem is that he will remain stuck in the cave. Women find it hard to be accepting of his isolation. She starts to resent him. At the same time however, men do not even realize that they have become as distant as they are. When women are stressed, they feel the need to talk. "A woman under stress is not immediately concerned with finding solutions to her problems but rather seeks relief by expressing herself and being understood," (Gray, 36). When women try to talk, men begin to resist. He does not want to be held responsible. But from all this, men have learned that even when they have been attacked and blamed by women, it is only temporary. Men have also realized how important it is for women to talk about their problems. Women conversely have learned to be more accepting of men when they go into their cave; that it is not a direct reflection of how he feels about her at all. Negotiations encourage talking and sharing feelings. This may serve to the woman's advantage. If men stop talking, and try to deal internally with the conflict, the women will never understand his true interests.Different LanguagesMen and women often say the same things, however, are usually misunderstood by each other. If men were able to understand a woman's complaint, they would be able to argue less. The problem is that women express how they feel differently than men, according to Gray. Women in fact actually say things that mean something completely different than how they feel. Women like to talk. But wo...
