is important, independence is key. According to Ph.D Deborah Tannen, "Women tend to focus on the first, and men on the second," (Tannen,26). Women expect to discuss decisions first decide by consensus after. Men do not like lengthy discussions. Intimacy and independence are at two separate ends and finding the balance between the two is the trick to good communication. At Odds...When looking for validation and encouragement, we often look to those closest to us. When they do not come through for one another, such as with men and women we become troubled. Women and men are frustrated by each other in many ways. Men often can not respond to a woman's troubles in a "matching" way that women can. Instead they try to offer solutions and fix the problem. This causes problems on both ends. Women can not understand how men can be so insensitive but men can not understand how women do not take their gestures as thoughtful ones. "Women and men's frustrations with each other's ways of dealing with troubles talk amount to applying interpretations based on one system to talk that is produced according to a different system," (Tannen, 54). This just means that men do not respond to each other the way that women do, and so it is difficult to act in the way that is most favorable to the opposite sex. It is important to understand why and how men and women respond the way that they do. Men and women will not always understand one another. It is like the saying "We agree to disagree." If men and women just understand that they converse differently, confrontations can be minimized.FramingEven, as conflicts are minimized they will continue to take place. When negotiating in very day conversations or in the courtroom, there are ways to help the situation resolve quicker and easier. In attempt to change the nature of a conversation, a technique called framing can be used. The art of reframing is, "redirecting the other side's attention away ...
