did not limit the barriers just to others, but also to himself. He was very open about his urge to talk too much hinders his effectiveness as a listener. Although he feels he is a good listener he feels he would be better, if he could manage his energy to play Mr. Fix It a little less and Mr. Good Listener a little more. The reverend also pointed out another barrier I had not thought of. Specifically to counseling situation, if a person is not willing to be open, and answer questions than he cannot help them. He told of a young woman who came for counseling one afternoon. When he began to ask her specific questions, she would only respond with very generic answers. After about ten minutes of trying to perform the task she initially had asked for, Reverend Luna thought it best she try counseling with someone, and she agreed. Not only does a professional listener need listening skills, but confidence and assertiveness to handle situations such as these. I learned several important listening issues from this interview. When discussing different types or styles of listening Mr. Luna listed the following; first, sometimes listening can be as simple as being a body for someone to vent to, second, sometimes people just need you to validate their feelings by perception checking and not giving answers. And third, sometimes people want you to listen to a situation and then give sound advice. Reverend Luna that figuring out what kind of listener they want or need is relatively easy. Once you understand what they need the problem usually gets solved whether he says anything or not. Once people verbalize their problems out loud they often recognize the solution and wonder why they couldnt see it before. Other times people come to him with deep spiritual issues with deep spiritual questions and concerns. In these listening situations Mr. Luna gets to talk more! Reverend Luna also took on a different opinion on mechanical speech. For example wh...
