8211; not react.Optimism : recognize that you have choice, that you can make a difference, that you are an important part of a living whole.Accountability : hold yourself to high standards and do what is right … even when it seems hopelessStage 3 Give YourselfAm I leaving a legacy of good?Am I healing or hurting?Do I live the golden rule?Will I die knowing I lived well?Interdependence : the recognition of an individual’s place in the larger community; awareness and decision making that takes into account the short & long term consequences of our actions.Empathy : use your awareness to guide your choices.Noble Goals : commit to action that serves ideals & serves others, but does not hurt anyone and does not profit one over another.( Six Seconds’ Web, www.6seconds.org , 1998 )There are activities to build EQ and to take charge of how you think, feel and act. These activities begin with knowing yourself. It’s through self-index, reflecting on EQ and naming feelings. The activities are taken out from the Six Seconds’ Web (1998).TopicActivitiesGetting To Know Me1. Self IndexMake a list of your strengths and your vulnerabilities.Copy your list and give it to several people who know you well and ask them mark the three strengths and the three vulnerabilities that best describe you. Invite them to add others to the list.After one week or two, revisit your list and revise it. Choose one strength you will focus on building. Make a list of ways you prevent yourself from fully utilizing that strength.2. Reflecting on EQTake the emotional intelligence test from books or from websites.Check the answer. Do you agree with your results?3. Naming FeelingsClip out 6 cartoons or comics from a paper or magazine. On a separate sheet label each with an emotional concept or a feeling.Examples of Concepts : esteem, integrity, hope, community, values, perseverance, gratitude, grace.Examples of Feelings : fear, love, anger, ...
